《 Sex and the city 色慾都市》給女人們的啟示
女人真的不易當，不只要對外表有要求，時時刻刻都要增值自己，有魅力的女人更需要有智慧。20 年前初登場的 HBO 劇集 《 Sex and the city 色慾都市》，成為了不少當時女人成長的天書，探討女人於成長時的不同經歷，在職場上、在愛情上、在人際關係上，遇到種種的困難及疑難，透過 4 位主角 Carrie Bradshaw、Samantha Jones、Charlotte York Goldenblatt 及 Miranda Hobbes 去道出新一代女人的新態度，即使部劇已經是 20 年前，但今日回看，不少經典對白仍是大道理，仍是值得女人們借鑑去增長智慧。 “And finally, the most important break up rule: no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never go through it, without your friends.” 最後，同為最重要的一條：不管是誰傷了你的心，不管你要花多少時間去療傷。你都不可能沒有朋友的陪伴。 “That was the day I came face to face with my freak: the frightening woman whose fear ate her sanity. The truth is, it isn’t just the men. It’s all of us. Anyone who’s single in Manhattan gets a little freaked out from time to time. But we keep trying, because you have to figure… If the world’s fattest twins can find love, there’s hope for all of us. Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us, understand us… and kiss our three heads and make it all better. And in the meantime, we always have Manhattan.” 就在那天，我終於能正視那奇怪的自己，一個理智被恐惧吃掉的女人。事實是，不只是男人，而是我們每一個人。在曼哈頓，每一個單身的人都會做出怪異的行為。但是我們都要堅持自己。如果在世界上最肥胖的雙胞胎都能尋覓到真愛，那麼我們還是有希望的。在某處，總會有一個小有怪異的人愛我們、理解我們和親吻我們的不完美，讓一切變得更好。而在此期間，我們總是有曼哈頓。 “While women are certainly no strangers to faking it… we faked our hair color, cup-size. Hell, we’ve even faked fur. I couldn’t help but wonder, has fear of being alone suddenly raised the bar on faking? Is it better to fake it than be alone?” 雖然女人不是陌生人，也不需要偽裝什麼。但我們偽裝了頭髮的顏色，偽裝自己的上圍，甚至偽裝自己的體毛。我忍不住想像，想到自己變回單身，要在酒吧中偽裝自己，我也感到害怕。其實偽裝自己是否比單身更好？ “Stop being a bitch.” “I’m not being a bitch. I’m just being myself.” 「不要再做婊子了」「我沒有做婊子，我只是在做自己。」 “You can’t swing a Fendi purse without knocking over 5 losers. Where did all the great guys go?” 你揮一下你的 Fendi 銀包就能擊退 5 個失敗者。到底好男人都去哪裡了？ “Do you have to play games to make a relationship work?” 是不是玩心機遊戲才是一段關係的成功之道。 “The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them and others you don’t, but in the end they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into. And sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.” 家庭是你一生中最重要的事情。在這些日子，你會選擇愛他們而不是其他人，而他們就是最能打動和了解你的人。有時家庭是你與生俱來，有時它是你為你自己而組織的。 “Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives?” 或者，正是我們所犯過的錯誤造就了我們的未來。沒有錯誤，哪來人生？ 否則，當現實衝擊你一貫的信仰，又或者愛情不如承諾一樣戰勝一切，你又如何捲土重來。到底希望是讓我們遠離的毒品，還是它讓我們活著？「相信」又為我們帶來什麼傷害？ “Otherwise, how do you bounce back when reality batters your belief system and love does not, as promised, conquer all? Is hope a drug we need to go off of, or is it keeping us alive? What’s the harm in believing?” “Babies come into this world with a clean slate." 嬰兒來到這世界就是一張白紙。 “I like my money where I can see it, hanging in my closet.” 我愛我的錢，因為我能看到它，能和它有最親近的接觸。 “All women pick (on men). It’s part of our DNA. It’s our little way of showing that we care.” 所有女人在揀選上（男人）的挑剔。都是我們的天性。也是我們表現出關心的小方法。 “It’s really because women just wanna be rescued.” 每個女人都只希望被救贖。 “Every woman has a male inside of her.” 每個女人的體內其實都住著一個男人。 “Isn’t that what you couples do? Support each other’s silly dreams?” 這不是你們這些情侶做的嗎？互相支持對方那些愚蠢的夢想？
19. Jun. 2018Harper’s Bazaar HK